Beige Flags in Therapy: When Things Are Just ‘Meh’
Not all warning signs are dramatic red flags. Sometimes, a therapist isn’t necessarily bad, but they may not be the best fit for you. These "beige flags" are signs that your therapy experience might be ineffective or unfulfilling.
You Feel Like You’re Just Chatting Without Progress
If your sessions feel more like casual conversations without direction or actionable takeaways, you may not be getting the structured support you need.
They Rarely Challenge You
Growth often comes from gentle challenges. If your therapist always agrees with you and never encourages deeper reflection, you may not be making meaningful progress.
They Use Too Much Therapy Jargon Without Explaining
While therapists use professional language, a good one will explain concepts in a way that resonates with you. If you often leave confused, therapy may not be as effective as it could be.
You’re Not Sure What the Goal of Therapy Is
If sessions feel unfocused or you don’t have a clear sense of what you’re working toward, you may need a therapist who provides more structure and direction.
You Feel Indifferent About Therapy
Therapy should evoke some level of emotion… whether it’s relief, insight, or challenge. If you consistently feel neutral or indifferent, it may be a sign that the therapist’s style doesn’t engage you in a meaningful way.
Reason Why Therapy Might Not Be Working
There are a few reasons why therapy may not be working for you, or why you aren’t getting the results you wanted. Understanding the reasons why therapy is not working is crucial to having success with either your current therapist or with a new one. Read about 11 possible ways it is not working and how to address this or move on: HERE!!
What about the other flags
It’s normal for finding the right therapist to take some time, and consulting with different ones may be a part of the process for you. Beige flags may turn into green flags, but know what green flags. Watching for red flags ensures you don’t get stuck in unhelpful sessions. Ultimately, therapy should be a nurturing environment where you feel empowered and able to heal.
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